Speak Your Mind


Constructive criticism... something that helped mold me as a child.  The "sticks and stones" theory that words will never hurt, is wrong, words DO hurt, but words also help.  

 Knowing what other people think of you is not always important, but can play in the back of your mind.  Those words can either help you change to be different, or change your opinion of the person who said them.  Not everyone has a constructive word, some of their words just reflect their own personality flaws.

 Political correctness, and our "tip toe" syndrome is taking away the molding words and replacing them with more damaging affects.  Saying NOTHING as opposed to what you really think is not always the best approach either, unless you have an ugly personality and really DO want to hurt someone's feelings.  But, if you have "molding" words to say to someone, in an attempt to get them to see what YOU see, then those words should be said.

 Someone once told me I have a big mouth.  I was a very loud child.  I didn't mean to be that way, I just was.  But this person pointed out what I didn't notice because well, I never HEARD myself until it was stated.  At that point, I paid more attention to how LOUD I was being in an attempt to not be. However, TODAY, we just tell children... "indoor/outdoor" voice.  Or use "shhhhh" in an attempt to NOT hurt their feelings.  But ya know?  Sometimes those feelings NEED to be hurt in order to get through.

 So people, enough already with the political correct bullshit and the beating around the bush!  Got something to say?  Spit it out!  I personally LIKE to know what someone thinks of me, because they may just be pointing out what I don't see.  Think about it.  Do you WANT to be an asshole?  Or has it just not been pointed out to you before?  You choose!

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